This book is full of the stuff you need or needed to hear instead of the unsolicited advice from your mother in-law or the side eye from the lady at the park or a perfectly curated Instagram parenting post that makes you feel inferior. This is the solidarity and the truth and the encouragement we long for. These are the messages we should share with new moms, our friends, and take to heart for ourselves. We need this in a world where ....
Your kids were screaming in the grocery store and you wanted to put the tantruming child/ren in the cart and high tail it out of there, and they went “boneless” and floppy and you were sweating through your shirt, and that cute little old lady came up to you and said “Oh, I miss motherhood, isn’t it the best? Cherish every moment, it goes so fast"- and then she adds in a “but my kids never acted like that, I wouldn’t have tolerated it” ***It would have been much more helpful for her to have handed you this book, but she didn’t.
You might show up to a pinterest-perfect child’s birthday party that is serving a gluten free wheat grass birthday cake and there are homemade artisanal handwoven gift baskets for each child in a perfectly clean house, with no trace of a child even living there…and there you are with a stain on your vacation bible school t-shirt and one of your kids won’t eat the green cake and is yelling that he likes twinkees better and all the moms dressed in Gucci and Lululemon are giving you looks of horror. ***would have been more helpful for you to have stayed home and read this book, then sent it to wheat grass cake lady to read afterward. But you didn’t have this book yet... but you do now.
Kristen Howerton writes her own story here, her own motherhood journey from chasing motherhood and not getting there the way she planned to. To chasing perfection and never quite grasping it, but wiggling her way into a middle ground of more attainable peace. It is not a how to book, or check list of things you need to do to be a good parent, or yet another list of proverbs 31 qualities you fall short of. It is an invitation to weed out the extra, sift out the lies, and curate what is going to matter for you and your family. She writes also about adoption, infertility and miscarriage, race, divorce, and the topic of church speak. She will tell you stories that will make you laugh, make you nod your head in agreement, then bring you to tears, then have you shouting AMEN with your fist in the air…then probably crying again, and laughing again and crying while laughing. “Rage Against the Minivan” feels like an honest confession from a trusted friend, and you’ll gasp in relief and say me too… and wish you could hug her.
And you will likely call all your friends and tell them to read it, and start giving it out at baby showers, or maybe just toss it in the general direction of random parents of screaming toddlers in the supermarket and send them off with a Katniss salute.
- Hardcover: 224 pages
- Publisher: Convergent Books (9 June 2020)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 198482516X
- ISBN-13: 978-1984825162
- Product Dimensions:: 14.8 x 2.2 x 21.7 cm
- Shipping Weight: 363 g
- Customer reviews: 99 customer ratings